Turn “They’ll never stop drinking”

into “Wait… they just said they need help.”

Whether you just found another hidden bottle, he’s lying and hiding his drinking or he’s promised to cut back again—learn how to help move your husband closer to sobriety while finding more peace yourself.

The “secret” to helping your husband get sober…

The right approach.
Because when you stop arguing, shaming, nagging and walking on eggshells and start using research-backed strategies to respond to their drinking…

Getting them closer to sobriety doesn’t feel impossible anymore — it’s real.

Healing Together: A step-by-step coaching membership and private community for wives navigating their partners’ drinking.

Starting at $37 per month - see details below

Join Healing Together

Your partner hides, denies or downplays their drinking. Blames you, gets defensive and says they don’t want to stop drinking.

And now you’re not just dealing with the drinking
you’re dealing with the denial, the defensiveness… and the blame.

So you’re left deciding:

Do I push this and risk a fight?
Or stay quiet and carry it alone… again?

You’ve tried everything you know how to do.

You’ve:

  • had the conversations

  • stayed quiet to keep the peace

  • made requests

  • tried to set boundaries

  • hoped this time would be different

Underneath all of it, you know the truth:

They can’t keep going like this.
And neither can you.

But no matter what you say or do…

it still feels like nothing makes a difference.

I don't want to do this alone anymore - I'm ready for real change!

It’s not that you haven’t tried hard enough.


It’s that nothing you’ve been shown is designed to actually work.

Addiction thrives in blaming you.

Moving your partner Closer To Sobriety is about understanding how change actually happens.

Sobriety happens when motivation starts to shift.

And that shift comes from learning how to:

  • reduce defensiveness

  • respond in a way that moves things forward

  • and reinforce change so it actually sticks

That’s the piece you’ve been missing.

I want to join! I just have a few questions... click to see faqs

You are not powerless, you HAVE influence over your partners addiction..

When you decide to stop giving the drinking, arguing, and begging all your energy, you can strategically help move your partner closer to sobriety.

And instead of the same cycle repeating…
things start to shift.

I want real change

Inside Healing Together, you’ll learn exactly what to do in the moments that matter most:

When you decide to stop giving the drinking, arguing, and begging all your energy, you can strategically help move your partner closer to sobriety.

  • When they deny, minimize, or say they don’t have a problem
    What to say (and what not to say) so you don’t trigger defensiveness or shut the conversation down

  • When you want to bring up their drinking without it turning into a fight
    How to time the conversation, what words to use, and how to respond if they get defensive

  • When they drink again after saying they wouldn’t
    How to respond without escalating the situation or reinforcing the cycle

  • When you’re trying to set boundaries but nothing seems to stick
    The exact boundary structure that reduces drinking instead of triggering more of it

  • When you don’t know whether to say something or stay quiet
    How to decide when to lean in, when to step back, and why timing changes everything

  • When you feel like you’re walking on eggshells or constantly managing their mood
    How to stop over-monitoring and start responding in a way that protects your peace

  • When you start to feel emotionally drained, resentful, or overwhelmed
    How to take your energy back without disconnecting from the relationship

  • And most importantly…

  • How to stop unintentionally fueling the cycle of their drinking
    and start influencing real change instead

I want real change - join now

You want his drinking to change. You also need things to feel better for you.

Healing Together membership isn’t just another venting program…

Inside Healing Together, you’ll have a plan to follow, personalized help applying it, and women who understand what you’re living through. You’ll have real-time support when situations are actually happening, step-by-step trainings you can apply immediately, and a private community of women who understand exactly what you’re going through.

1. “He doesn’t think he has a problem. How do I help him WANT to change?”

Every time you mention drinking, he denies it, gets defensive, or promises he’ll cut back.

Learn how to approach those conversations, respond to denial, and encourage steps toward sobriety—even if he’s refusing help right now.

2. “I’ve tried everything. What am I actually supposed to DO?”

You’ve talked, stayed quiet, set boundaries, and wondered whether you’re helping or making his drinking easier.

Get a step-by-step plan for responding differently, plus personalized written coaching for your specific situation—so you can put the tools into practice with support.

3. “His drinking is taking over my life. How do I feel like myself again?”

You’re checking the trash, his car, worrying, and trying to predict what kind of evening you’re going to have.

Learn how to follow through on boundaries, manage the anxious spiral, and make room for things you enjoy all while continuing to support real sobriety & change.

Here’s what’s inside:

MOVE YOUR PARTNER CLOSER TO SOBRIETY COURSE

When he denies drinking, breaks another promise, or refuses help—you want to know how to respond.

My 10 Steps To Move Your Partner Closer To Sobriety Framework teaches you how to communicate, set boundaries, and encourage movement toward sobriety while caring for yourself.

With 63+ on-demand videos and interactive guides/worksheets, you can learn at your own pace and return to the tools as new situations come up.

Watch from your phone or computer. Start with one lesson and practice putting it into words.

LIVE CALLS WITH MARIAH & DAYNE (HER HUSBAND)

“What finally helped him recognize he needed help?”

Hear us talk about the questions you wish you could ask someone who’s been on both sides of drinking and recovery.

We share our experiences with denial, the changes we made, and what early sobriety looked like in our marriage.

These private conversations give you a closer look at our journey, including the difficult parts and the turning points.

Listen to past live call replays anytime from your phone whenever it fits your day.

PERSONALIZED Q&A + COACHING SUPPORT

You found a bottle. He says it’s old. You’re supposed to go to dinner together, and you have no idea what to do.

Bring those specific situations into the community.

“What do I say? How do I follow through? What could I try differently?”

Get personalized written guidance within 24 hours.

Post anytime—even when the question comes to you at 2 AM—so you don’t have to remember it until the next live call. Bring your situation into our private written Q&A anytime, day or night.

LIVE MONTHLY Q&A + WORKSHOPS

Sometimes you understand a tool until you try using it with your husband.

He responds differently than you expected. You get overwhelmed. You’re unsure of what to say, when to say it or how to say it.

You want personalized feedback on your relationship.

Monthly live Q&A and training workshops give you space to ask questions and deepen your skills around communication, boundaries, denial, and your own well-being.

Can’t attend live?

Watch the replays when you have time, and revisit a training when you need a refresher.

A PRIVATE COMMUNITY OF 200+ WIVES/PARTNERS

There’s a lot you might keep to yourself when your husband struggles with drinking.

The canceled plans. The excuses you’ve made. The way you feel hopeful one day and completely worn down the next.Connect with women who understand that you can love your husband and want things to change.

Ask questions, practice the tools, and share the small wins that other people might not understand.

You can participate using a different display name if you prefer more privacy.

JOIN FROM ANYWHERE, ANYTIME & STAY ANONYMOUS

Get support from your phone or computer, wherever you live.

Our members live in the US, UK, Australia and more.

You can ask questions, watch trainings, and connect with other wives.

Prefer to keep your identity private?

Use a different display name inside our private community. Your posts are only visible to fellow members and our team.

Get the support you need, with the privacy you want.

This is what happens when you stop guessing and start using the right approach:

  • “I felt like I was walking on eggshells every single day.” I never knew what mood he’d be in or how much he’d had. Every conversation turned into a fight or got shut down completely. Now I know exactly how to respond in those moments. Things aren’t perfect, but the constant tension is gone — and for the first time, I feel calm in my own home again.

  • “I had tried EVERYTHING before this.” Al-anon, therapy, talking, staying quiet, setting boundaries… nothing actually changed his drinking and I felt completely stuck. Within weeks of using these tools, things started shifting. He’s more open, less defensive, and I finally feel like what I’m doing is actually making a difference.

  • “Even though he’s still drinking sometimes… everything feels different.” I used to think things could only get better if he stopped completely. But now I feel more in control of how I respond, less consumed by it, and more like myself again and that alone has changed everything

  • “He swore he would never go to therapy.” Every time I brought it up, it turned into a fight or he shut down completely. After I started using these tools, something shifted. He became more open, less defensive… and eventually agreed to get help on his own. I didn’t force it. I didn’t beg. But the way I showed up changed everything.

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  • “He always said he didn’t have a drinking problem.” No matter how I explained it, he would deny it or turn it back on me. Now, instead of arguing, I know how to respond in a way that actually gets through to him. He’s more aware, more open, and starting to take responsibility in a way I’ve never seen before.

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  • “I didn’t recognize myself anymore.” I was constantly anxious, overthinking everything, and trying to manage every situation. Now I feel like myself again. I’m not walking on eggshells, and I finally have a way to handle things without it taking over my entire life.

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  • “Every conversation used to turn into a fight.” No matter how calmly I tried to bring things up, it would escalate or get shut down. Now I know exactly how to approach it and even when it doesn’t go perfectly, I don’t feel out of control anymore.

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Questions before you join? Email support@healingtogethermembership.com.

We reply within 24 hours.

 FAQs

  • No, it will show as “Mariah Kay Coaching” on your bank statement. You do NOT have to worry about “My Husband's Addiction” showing on your bank statement. 🤍

  • This group is all written and online. There are no specific call times. There IS 24/7 access for you to post, share, use the skills course and ask questions.

    We reply every single day in this group (M-F). The moment you join, you get access and can start asking questions, connecting and sharing with others.

    BONUS: There are live monthly calls - these will change day and time monthly.

  • This is a safe place. We will never tell you to "leave" your partner.

    We will never talk down about your partner.

    This group is about supporting YOU on your unique journey so that you can feel empowered to make the best decision for your life, on your terms.

    Anyone in the group who is unkind will be removed immediately (this has never happened).

  • YES, you can remain anonymous! You can set your user name to show whatever you’d like when you join us. This is a PRIVATE community. The only people who can see your posts inside are those who pay to be inside of the membership. If it makes you feel more comfortable, you can also create or use any name you'd like in the group if you prefer to stay private.

  • Yes

  • YES❤️ We have women from all over. The group has 24/7 online access so you can share, post questions and learn from the CRAFT on-demand trainings anytime - day or night.

  • No. 💛 This is a PRIVATE community. The only people who can see your posts inside are those who pay to be inside of the membership.

    If it makes you feel more comfortable, you can also create or use any name you'd like in the group if you prefer to stay private.

  • This membership is more than a support group. 

    You will have access to tools and higher touch/higher level of support in this group. It is far more hands on, valuable and individualized beyond a typical “support group”.

    While there is space to share and support each other, We will also be providing specific individualized feedback, tools and support to your unique questions.

    The tools and resources provided are those that I've paid for overtime and I've redesigned them and added things specifically for this group.

    You also always get a response to every single question you post, as much as you need, daily.

  • Healing Together Membership is online from a computer or your phone (there is a free phone app) called Circle Communities.

    As soon as you join, you will get a link with steps to set up your account.

  • Yes. Healing Together is based on the proven CRAFT Method which is built for situations where direct conversations aren’t creating change anywhere.

    You’ll learn specific strategies to lower resistance so your partner becomes more open to talking. E

    ven if they stay closed off at first, you’ll still have tools to influence change through your actions, your reinforcement, and your own calm, confident presence.

    We even help you word the conversation based on you, your family, your partner and your unique situation.

  • Yes.

    This membership was designed exactly for those situations.

    If your partner is stuck in denial, swears they can handle it on their own, or has made promises to cut back only to fall back into old habits, you’re not alone — most of our members start here.

    Inside Healing Together, you’ll learn the CRAFT Method which is a proven, evidence-based approach that teaches you how to:

    Lower defensiveness and resistance Make sobriety more appealing than drinking

    Motivate your partner to want to change

    Guide them toward saying yes to help or treatment

    Even if they’ve refused it before… even if they’ve tried and failed… these tools work to move them closer to recovery without detaching, leaving, or waiting for rock bottom.

  • Yes.

    Lying about drinking is incredibly common when someone is struggling with addiction. It’s usually not about trying to hurt you or make you feel crazy it’s about protecting the addiction.

    The CRAFT Method you’ll learn inside Healing Together is designed to work even when your partner isn’t being honest.

    You’ll learn how to reduce defensiveness, make honesty more likely, and keep moving them toward change without getting stuck in endless arguments about “if” they drank.

What members say when asked: “What would you tell someone who is thinking about joining Healing Together but isn’t sure yet?”

  • Join it. It provides real support and strategies that are practical and effective.

    -Healing Together Member

  • Knowing you're in a similar situation to others/not alone is so helpful.

    -Healing Together Member

  • JOIN! Give it three months of commitment and I promise that YOU will be in a better place for YOU

    -Healing Together Member

  • What have you got to lose? Hours pass… we can spend them learning or staying stuck. Only one of those options gives any hope for change.

    -Healing Together Member

  • It’s awesome! Mariah is very clear with her advice and knowledgeable

    -Healing Together Member

  • I would tell them that I have tried it all and after years of a different program this is the only thing that has even come to helping my partner get sober and for me to stay sane and have the right support. Do it! You will never regret it.

    -Healing Together Member

  • Do it! You will learn, you will feel supported, you will grow, your relationship will improve, you will find bits of joy

    -Healing Together Member

  • Give it a try! You don't know what you don't know. This can help you, even if your partner continues to struggle.

    -Healing Together Member

  • Go for it, you will never regret it!

    -Healing Together Member

Healing Together Success Stories

  • "He’s 52 days sober! I never thought I’d be saying that, but here we are. This group and these strategies changed everything."

    -Healing Together Member

  • "I used to spend all my time trying to fix him, and it was draining me. This group gave me my life back—now I take care of myself, and surprisingly, he's drinking less too."

    -Healing Together Member

  • He actually comes home much earlier not buzzed or drunk which is a huge win. I know there will be ups and downs. This paired with his unprompted apology really helps me see how CRAFT is working to break old patterns and cycles.

    -Healing Together Member

  • "This group has truly been a saving grace for my mental health. I went from feeling completely alone to feeling supported, hopeful, and strategic about my partner’s sobriety journey."

    -Healing Together Member

  • "I was nervous about joining, but it's truly life-changing. Since starting Healing Together, my partner has joined therapy, and I finally feel like I know what I’m doing."

    -Healing Together Member

  • We did it! (Obviously this is only the first step, and there's still such a long, hard battle in front of us. The risk of relapse is high etc etc. But I just need to celebrate this win!! This is the first time EVER he admitted he cannot drink and sobriety is the only thing that will work. When I stopped enabling and fixing things for him, he felt the fear of losing everything - friends, family, me. And he decided he would choose sobriety and enter an outpatient rehab programme with intensive therapy.

    -Healing Together Member

  • After a few months of supporting him strategically in the membership, he has decided to try a 30 day rehab. I view it as an investment into our future.

    -Healing Together Member

  • He started therapy on Saturday!!! One shift I noticed in myself is that I don't feel total "rage" inside me when he goes to the bar after work. I set my boundary, watch a show or movie by myself and enjoy my night -It feels more peaceful that we are not arguing all the time. He does get angry sometimes when he has more to drink and almost mocks me for setting my boundary, but when he's sober the next day he understands Love this group!

    -Healing Together Member

  • He has acknowledge that drinking has negatively affected our relationship. He has been trying to cut back on drinking. And I can see him trying to be more emotionally connected to me.

    -Healing Together Member

  • I'm able to manage my thoughts feelings and conversations a lot better avoiding so many arguments. Ive learned to let him open up to me on his own time and listen to his thoughts and feelings about his journey instead of me trying to paint the picture or initiate the conversations. Overall feeling less anxious if I'm going about my day and coming home to him.

    -Healing Together Member

  • I’ve finally been seeing the cycle breaking for real. The hard days are more manageable and end up having a more positive turn out than in the past.

    -Healing Together Member

  • My partner decided on his own to take a break from drinking for 6 weeks. Before his break he was drinking 7 days a week and sometimes all day on the weekends. He went from saying "I'll probably always drink so if you don't like it you can go" to " I don't like how drinking makes me feel, look, or act and I don't like how drinking has been in the way of so many things I would like to be able to do with my life". He has not been drunk in over 9 weeks.

    -Healing Together Member

Have more questions? I'm happy to answer them personally.

More About Mariah

Mariah - The Founder of Healing Together

CRAFT-certified coach, and someone who’s been exactly where you are.

For years, I tried everything to fix my husband’s drinking. I begged, argued, cried, and felt like I was losing myself in the process. It wasn’t until I stopped trying to control his addiction — and started learning how to support real change — that everything shifted.

Now, he's sober. And I'm here to help other women feel the clarity, peace, and strength I once wished I had.

Healing Together is the community I needed when I felt most alone — and the one I’m so honored to offer you now.

Learn more about me here