Turn “They’ll never stop drinking”

into “Wait… they just said they need help.”

The secret? Real change starts with the right approach.


Because when you stop arguing, shaming, nagging and walking on eggshells and start using research-backed strategies to respond to their drinking…

Getting them closer to sobriety doesn’t feel impossible anymore — it starts to feel real.

Healing Together Membership & Private Community
A step-by-step program and support community to help you move your partner closer to sobriety, while protecting your peace.

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Your partner hides, denies or downplays their drinking. Blames you, gets defensive and says they don’t want to stop drinking.

And now you’re not just dealing with the drinking
you’re dealing with the denial, the defensiveness… and the blame.

So you’re left deciding:

Do I push this and risk a fight?
Or stay quiet and carry it alone… again?

You’ve tried everything you know how to do.

You’ve:

  • had the conversations

  • stayed quiet to keep the peace

  • made requests

  • tried to set boundaries

  • hoped this time would be different

Underneath all of it, you know the truth:

They can’t keep going like this.
And neither can you.

But no matter what you say or do…

it still feels like nothing makes a difference.

I don't want to do this alone anymore - I'm ready for real change!

It’s not that you haven’t tried hard enough.


It’s that nothing you’ve been shown is designed to actually work.

Addiction thrives in blaming you.

Moving your partner Closer To Sobriety is about understanding how change actually happens.

Sobriety happens when motivation starts to shift.

And that shift comes from learning how to:

  • reduce defensiveness

  • respond in a way that moves things forward

  • and reinforce change so it actually sticks

That’s the piece you’ve been missing.

I want to join! I just have a few questions... click to see faqs

You are not powerless, you HAVE influence over your partners addiction..

When you decide to stop giving the drinking, arguing, and begging all your energy, you can strategically help move your partner closer to sobriety.

And instead of the same cycle repeating…
things start to shift.

I want real change

Introducing…

This is exactly what Healing Together was created to do.

Healing Together is a step-by-step program and private support community designed to help you:

influence real change in your partner’s drinking
without losing yourself in the process.

This isn’t another venting group.
And it’s not just information you’ll forget when you need it most.

This is a structured approach that shows you exactly what to say and do
in the moments that actually matter so that you can move your partner closer to sobriety.

Inside Healing Together, you’ll learn exactly what to do in the moments that matter most:

When you decide to stop giving the drinking, arguing, and begging all your energy, you can strategically help move your partner closer to sobriety.

When they deny, minimize, or say they don’t have a problem
What to say (and what not to say) so you don’t trigger defensiveness or shut the conversation down

When you want to bring up their drinking without it turning into a fight
How to time the conversation, what words to use, and how to respond if they get defensive

When they drink again after saying they wouldn’t
How to respond without escalating the situation or reinforcing the cycle

When you’re trying to set boundaries but nothing seems to stick
The exact boundary structure that reduces drinking instead of triggering more of it

When you don’t know whether to say something or stay quiet
How to decide when to lean in, when to step back, and why timing changes everything

When you feel like you’re walking on eggshells or constantly managing their mood
How to stop over-monitoring and start responding in a way that protects your peace

When you start to feel emotionally drained, resentful, or overwhelmed
How to take your energy back without disconnecting from the relationship

And most importantly…

How to stop unintentionally fueling the cycle of their drinking
and start influencing real change instead

I want real change - join now

This membership isn’t just another venting program…

You’ll have real-time support when situations are actually happening, step-by-step trainings you can apply immediately, and a private community of women who understand exactly what you’re going through. You don’t have to figure this out alone.

  • 1. Reduce defensiveness so they actually hear you

    Even if they deny, minimize, or say they don’t have a problem
    you’ll know how to respond in a way that doesn’t trigger shutdown or push them further away

  • 2. Change how you respond to the drinking

    Have conversations that create real CHANGE and stop unintentionally fueling the cycle, being the bad guy and start shifting the dynamic in a way that moves things forward

  • 3. Build motivation for change over time

    Even if they say they’ll never stop, don’t want therapy, or refuse help
    you’ll learn how to influence the conditions that make change more likely

    This is what allows change to happen
    without begging
    without ultimatums
    and without becoming the bad guy.

Instant access when you join:

  • ✔️ Move Your Partner Closer to Sobriety Course

    Access our CRAFT-informed, on-demand video course. The entire library of 63+ specialized, to-the-point videos (that's 16+ hours of video content).

    🎧 Accessible anytime from your phone (listen on the go) or from your computer. Plus get access to live call replays.

  • ✔️ 24/7 Personalized Expert Guidance, Steps & Support

    Inside the private Healing Together community, you’ll get direct access to me and our trained CRAFT coaches even if it’s 2am and you feel stuck. Get step-by-step support and personalized answers in any time zone from me or my co-coaches within 24 hours.

  • ✔️ A Private Community With 200+ Wives

    You’re not crazy, selfish, or alone and you’ll never be told to leave your partner.
    This private space is full of women learning the same tools to help their partner move toward sobriety while protecting their own peace.

    Healing Together is a private community and ongoing access to support so you’re not navigating this alone when things are actually happening

    This isn’t about putting more on your plate.

    It’s about finally having a clear, strategic path
    so you can stop guessing…
    and start seeing real shifts in your relationship.

  • ✔️Exclusive Access to the Private Podcast: Honest Talks with Mariah & Her Husband

    Hear both sides of addiction and recovery in our private podcast.
    We share how denial broke, what early sobriety looked like, and the turning points that changed everything.
    Raw, real, and only for Healing Together members.

    This is your chance to hear the truth, unfiltered from both perspectives.

  • ✔️ Live Monthly Q&A + Training Workshops + Replays

    Join live coaching calls and training workshops every month or watch replays anytime.
    Learn exactly how to:
    ✔ Communicate without triggering defensiveness
    ✔ Set and stick to boundaries
    ✔ Protect your peace while helping your partner change

    ASK ANY QUESTION … and so much more!

    Instant access to every replay so you can learn and apply the skills at your own pace.

  • ✔️ Worldwide Access & Cancel Anytime

    Access Healing Together from your phone app or computer, anywhere in the world. Our members are from the US, UK, Australia and more.

    Our goal is for you to feel supported and confident in how you approach your partners addiction so that you can help move them closer to sobriety. Cancel anytime. No questions asked.

Join now - cancel anytime

START HEALING WITH HEALING TOGETHER

Science-backed strategies, real support, and a community that understands what you’re going through — created by someone who’s lived it, is still married and knows what actually helps.

WHAT ELSE IS INCLUDED:

• All lessons and trainings inside Healing Together: The full membership program designed to help you move your partner closer to sobriety while protecting your own peace.


• 60 + CRAFT-based video trainings that show you exactly what to say, when to say it, and how to communicate without starting fights.


• A growing library of on-demand workshops on denial, boundaries, communication, relapse, emotional regulation, and rebuilding trust.


• Interactive worksheets that help you apply every skill in real-life situations (so you stop guessing what to do next).


• Ongoing updates and new lessons added regularly so you’ll always have access to the latest trainings and replays.

WHAT ELSE IS INCLUDED:

• Private community of over 190 women who understand exactly what you’re living through — no judgment, no shame, just support and strategy.


• Monthly live coaching calls + Q&A to get personalized help for your situation.


• Daily access to get answers from Mariah & her coaches inside the community for real-time guidance and feedback.


• Bonus library: Past live call replays and special trainings, including “How to Get Your Partner Out of Denial,” “When to Talk About Their Drinking,” and “Rebuilding Trust.”


• Live Q&A with Mariah & her husband: Live calls with Mariah’s husband (who is now over 18+ months sober) to share what helped him get sober. No questions are off the table.

More questions? Check out our FAQs

Monthly Membership

$37/per month

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Quarterly Membership

$99/per quarter

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This is what happens when you stop guessing and start using the right approach:

  • “I felt like I was walking on eggshells every single day.” I never knew what mood he’d be in or how much he’d had. Every conversation turned into a fight or got shut down completely. Now I know exactly how to respond in those moments. Things aren’t perfect, but the constant tension is gone — and for the first time, I feel calm in my own home again.

  • “I had tried EVERYTHING before this.” Al-anon, therapy, talking, staying quiet, setting boundaries… nothing actually changed his drinking and I felt completely stuck. Within weeks of using these tools, things started shifting. He’s more open, less defensive, and I finally feel like what I’m doing is actually making a difference.

  • “Even though he’s still drinking sometimes… everything feels different.” I used to think things could only get better if he stopped completely. But now I feel more in control of how I respond, less consumed by it, and more like myself again and that alone has changed everything

  • “He swore he would never go to therapy.” Every time I brought it up, it turned into a fight or he shut down completely. After I started using these tools, something shifted. He became more open, less defensive… and eventually agreed to get help on his own. I didn’t force it. I didn’t beg. But the way I showed up changed everything.

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  • “He always said he didn’t have a drinking problem.” No matter how I explained it, he would deny it or turn it back on me. Now, instead of arguing, I know how to respond in a way that actually gets through to him. He’s more aware, more open, and starting to take responsibility in a way I’ve never seen before.

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  • “I didn’t recognize myself anymore.” I was constantly anxious, overthinking everything, and trying to manage every situation. Now I feel like myself again. I’m not walking on eggshells, and I finally have a way to handle things without it taking over my entire life.

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  • “Every conversation used to turn into a fight.” No matter how calmly I tried to bring things up, it would escalate or get shut down. Now I know exactly how to approach it and even when it doesn’t go perfectly, I don’t feel out of control anymore.

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 FAQs

  • No, it will show as “Mariah Kay Coaching” on your bank statement. You do NOT have to worry about “My Husband's Addiction” showing on your bank statement. 🤍

  • This group is all written and online. There are no specific call times. There IS 24/7 access for you to post, share, use the skills course and ask questions.

    We reply every single day in this group (M-F). The moment you join, you get access and can start asking questions, connecting and sharing with others.

    BONUS: There are live monthly calls - these will change day and time monthly.

  • This is a safe place. We will never tell you to "leave" your partner.

    We will never talk down about your partner.

    This group is about supporting YOU on your unique journey so that you can feel empowered to make the best decision for your life, on your terms.

    Anyone in the group who is unkind will be removed immediately (this has never happened).

  • YES, you can remain anonymous! You can set your user name to show whatever you’d like when you join us. This is a PRIVATE community. The only people who can see your posts inside are those who pay to be inside of the membership. If it makes you feel more comfortable, you can also create or use any name you'd like in the group if you prefer to stay private.

  • Yes

  • YES❤️ We have women from all over. The group has 24/7 online access so you can share, post questions and learn from the CRAFT on-demand trainings anytime - day or night.

  • No. 💛 This is a PRIVATE community. The only people who can see your posts inside are those who pay to be inside of the membership.

    If it makes you feel more comfortable, you can also create or use any name you'd like in the group if you prefer to stay private.

  • This membership is more than a support group. 

    You will have access to tools and higher touch/higher level of support in this group. It is far more hands on, valuable and individualized beyond a typical “support group”.

    While there is space to share and support each other, We will also be providing specific individualized feedback, tools and support to your unique questions.

    The tools and resources provided are those that I've paid for overtime and I've redesigned them and added things specifically for this group.

    You also always get a response to every single question you post, as much as you need, daily.

  • Healing Together Membership is online from a computer or your phone (there is a free phone app) called Circle Communities.

    As soon as you join, you will get a link with steps to set up your account.

  • Yes. Healing Together is based on the proven CRAFT Method which is built for situations where direct conversations aren’t creating change anywhere.

    You’ll learn specific strategies to lower resistance so your partner becomes more open to talking. E

    ven if they stay closed off at first, you’ll still have tools to influence change through your actions, your reinforcement, and your own calm, confident presence.

    We even help you word the conversation based on you, your family, your partner and your unique situation.

  • Yes.

    This membership was designed exactly for those situations.

    If your partner is stuck in denial, swears they can handle it on their own, or has made promises to cut back only to fall back into old habits, you’re not alone — most of our members start here.

    Inside Healing Together, you’ll learn the CRAFT Method which is a proven, evidence-based approach that teaches you how to:

    Lower defensiveness and resistance Make sobriety more appealing than drinking

    Motivate your partner to want to change

    Guide them toward saying yes to help or treatment

    Even if they’ve refused it before… even if they’ve tried and failed… these tools work to move them closer to recovery without detaching, leaving, or waiting for rock bottom.

  • Yes.

    Lying about drinking is incredibly common when someone is struggling with addiction. It’s usually not about trying to hurt you or make you feel crazy it’s about protecting the addiction.

    The CRAFT Method you’ll learn inside Healing Together is designed to work even when your partner isn’t being honest.

    You’ll learn how to reduce defensiveness, make honesty more likely, and keep moving them toward change without getting stuck in endless arguments about “if” they drank.

What members say when asked: “What would you tell someone who is thinking about joining Healing Together but isn’t sure yet?”

  • Join it. It provides real support and strategies that are practical and effective.

    -Healing Together Member

  • Knowing you're in a similar situation to others/not alone is so helpful.

    -Healing Together Member

  • JOIN! Give it three months of commitment and I promise that YOU will be in a better place for YOU

    -Healing Together Member

  • What have you got to lose? Hours pass… we can spend them learning or staying stuck. Only one of those options gives any hope for change.

    -Healing Together Member

  • It’s awesome! Mariah is very clear with her advice and knowledgeable

    -Healing Together Member

  • I would tell them that I have tried it all and after years of a different program this is the only thing that has even come to helping my partner get sober and for me to stay sane and have the right support. Do it! You will never regret it.

    -Healing Together Member

  • Do it! You will learn, you will feel supported, you will grow, your relationship will improve, you will find bits of joy

    -Healing Together Member

  • Give it a try! You don't know what you don't know. This can help you, even if your partner continues to struggle.

    -Healing Together Member

  • Go for it, you will never regret it!

    -Healing Together Member

Healing Together Success Stories

  • "He’s 52 days sober! I never thought I’d be saying that, but here we are. This group and these strategies changed everything."

    -Healing Together Member

  • "I used to spend all my time trying to fix him, and it was draining me. This group gave me my life back—now I take care of myself, and surprisingly, he's drinking less too."

    -Healing Together Member

  • He actually comes home much earlier not buzzed or drunk which is a huge win. I know there will be ups and downs. This paired with his unprompted apology really helps me see how CRAFT is working to break old patterns and cycles.

    -Healing Together Member

  • "This group has truly been a saving grace for my mental health. I went from feeling completely alone to feeling supported, hopeful, and strategic about my partner’s sobriety journey."

    -Healing Together Member

  • "I was nervous about joining, but it's truly life-changing. Since starting Healing Together, my partner has joined therapy, and I finally feel like I know what I’m doing."

    -Healing Together Member

  • We did it! (Obviously this is only the first step, and there's still such a long, hard battle in front of us. The risk of relapse is high etc etc. But I just need to celebrate this win!! This is the first time EVER he admitted he cannot drink and sobriety is the only thing that will work. When I stopped enabling and fixing things for him, he felt the fear of losing everything - friends, family, me. And he decided he would choose sobriety and enter an outpatient rehab programme with intensive therapy.

    -Healing Together Member

  • After a few months of supporting him strategically in the membership, he has decided to try a 30 day rehab. I view it as an investment into our future.

    -Healing Together Member

  • He started therapy on Saturday!!! One shift I noticed in myself is that I don't feel total "rage" inside me when he goes to the bar after work. I set my boundary, watch a show or movie by myself and enjoy my night -It feels more peaceful that we are not arguing all the time. He does get angry sometimes when he has more to drink and almost mocks me for setting my boundary, but when he's sober the next day he understands Love this group!

    -Healing Together Member

  • He has acknowledge that drinking has negatively affected our relationship. He has been trying to cut back on drinking. And I can see him trying to be more emotionally connected to me.

    -Healing Together Member

  • I'm able to manage my thoughts feelings and conversations a lot better avoiding so many arguments. Ive learned to let him open up to me on his own time and listen to his thoughts and feelings about his journey instead of me trying to paint the picture or initiate the conversations. Overall feeling less anxious if I'm going about my day and coming home to him.

    -Healing Together Member

  • I’ve finally been seeing the cycle breaking for real. The hard days are more manageable and end up having a more positive turn out than in the past.

    -Healing Together Member

  • My partner decided on his own to take a break from drinking for 6 weeks. Before his break he was drinking 7 days a week and sometimes all day on the weekends. He went from saying "I'll probably always drink so if you don't like it you can go" to " I don't like how drinking makes me feel, look, or act and I don't like how drinking has been in the way of so many things I would like to be able to do with my life". He has not been drunk in over 9 weeks.

    -Healing Together Member

Have more questions? I'm happy to answer them personally.

More About Mariah

Mariah - The Founder of Healing Together

CRAFT-certified coach, and someone who’s been exactly where you are.

For years, I tried everything to fix my husband’s drinking. I begged, argued, cried, and felt like I was losing myself in the process. It wasn’t until I stopped trying to control his addiction — and started learning how to support real change — that everything shifted.

Now, he's sober. And I'm here to help other women feel the clarity, peace, and strength I once wished I had.

Healing Together is the community I needed when I felt most alone — and the one I’m so honored to offer you now.

Learn more about me here