Turn "Every conversation about drinking ends in a fight."

into “Wait… they just said they need help.”

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Every conversation about drinking ends the same way right now.

Maybe you've heard...

"I don't have a problem."

"You're the one making this a big deal."

"I'll handle it myself."

"I only had a couple."

"Can we just stop talking about this?"

"You're always nagging me."

Or maybe you've found yourself...

• Asking, "Have you been drinking?" even though you already know the answer in your gut.

• Trying to convince them they have a problem.

• Bringing up their drinking while they're drunk because you can't hold it in anymore.

• Replaying conversations afterward, wishing you had said something different.

• Walking on eggshells because you don't know which version of them is coming home.

• Feeling like no matter what you say, it somehow gets turned back on you.

• Wondering if anything you do actually makes a difference.

But you don't want to spend the rest of your life arguing, begging, threatening, or feeling like the bad guy.

You're in the right place.

The Communication Guide & Workbook: What to Say to Move Your Partner Closer to Sobriety will teach you exactly what to say, when to say it, and how to say it so you can lower defensiveness, stop the constant arguments, and have conversations that actually move your partner closer to change.

Get the workbook 
the truth?

The moment where you threaten to move out if they don’t get help?

That dramatic rock-bottom moment where they suddenly quit drinking and beg for help?


It doesn’t work (and it’s not helping you and or their sobriety)

That’s exactly why I created...

Communication Workbook: What to Say to Move Your Partner Closer to Sobriety

✅ A Proven Framework Life-Changing Skills

Each one builds on the last to help you feel:
– More confident
– Less reactive
– Better equipped to support their sobriety without sacrificing yourself

You’ll learn:

  • How to talk about their drinking without a fight

  • What to say when they deny the problem

✅ 14 Page Guide & Workbook - Instant PDF Download

Packed with real-life examples, clear teaching, and step-by-step exercises that help you apply communication in your home, your relationship, and your daily life.

📘 Part 1: Learn the Skill
Understand how addiction works, why your past efforts haven’t worked, and the science-backed strategies that actually help.

✍️ Part 2: Apply the Skill
Use the guided worksheet to create your personal plan and start practicing it in real life. Even if your partner isn’t ready to change.

✅ Bonus: 50% OFF One Month of Support Inside Healing Together 💛

(Value: $84)

When you purchase the workbook, you’ll also receive a full month inside Healing Together, our private support community for partners of people struggling with addiction.


Ask questions, get feedback, and receive daily coaching as you implement the workbook in real life.

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 FAQs

  • No, it will show as “Mariah Kay Coaching” on your bank statement. You do NOT have to worry about “My Husband's Addiction” showing on your bank statement. 🤍

  • That’s actually one of the biggest reasons this workbook exists.
    You’ll learn how to gently interrupt their denial, open up real conversations, and use evidence-backed strategies that help them see the problem—without fights or ultimatums.

  • Not at all.
    This workbook is specifically for people who want to stay—but need things to get better. You’ll learn how to protect your peace and support their recovery, even if you're not ready to walk away.

  • No—it’s different by design.
    Instead of focusing on “detaching with love,” this approach teaches you how to actively support change in your partner using CRAFT: a research-backed method proven to reduce substance use and increase treatment entry.

  • If you’ve been begging, pleading, setting boundaries that don’t work, or doing all the emotional labor—this workbook will feel like a breath of fresh air.
    It’s not about trying harder. It’s about learning the strategies that actually work.

  • Yes.
    You’ll learn how to navigate even the hardest moments—binge drinking, broken promises, relapses—and what to do in a way that helps you feel calm, confident, and clear on your next steps.

  • Yes!

  • The workbook is a downloaded PDF that you can print and use as much as you’d like.

  • Your workbook will contain a discount code for 50% off your first month. You DO NOT have to use this—but highly encouraged if you want coaching, feedback, and daily support while you implement the workbook. You will be responsible for canceling your membership after the 50% off your first month if you choose to do so.

  • You can read more here about everything included inside of the Healing Together Membership.

  • "He’s 52 days sober! I never thought I’d be saying that, but here we are. This group and these strategies changed everything."

    -Healing Together Member

  • "I used to spend all my time trying to fix him, and it was draining me. This group gave me my life back—now I take care of myself, and surprisingly, he's drinking less too."

    -Healing Together Member

  • "This group has truly been a saving grace for my mental health. I went from feeling completely alone to feeling supported, hopeful, and strategic about my partner’s sobriety journey."

    -Healing Together Member

  • One progress is he started therapy on Saturday

    -One shift I noticed in myself is that I don’t feel total “rage” inside me when he goes to the bar after work. I set my boundary, watch a show or movie by myself and enjoy my night
    -It feels more peaceful that we are not arguing all the time. He does get angry sometimes when he has more to drink and almost mocks me for setting my boundary, but when he’s sober the next day he understands

    Love this group! 💛

    -Healing Together Member

  • "I was nervous about joining, but it's truly life-changing. Since starting Healing Together, my partner has joined therapy, and I finally feel like I know what I’m doing."

    -Healing Together Member

  • He has acknowledge that drinking has negatively affected our relationship.

    He has been trying to cut back on drinking. I can see him trying to be more emotionally connected to me.

    -Healing Together Members

  • I am seeing a less drinking.

    I am staying calming and being much more positive, I am really trying to stay out of the bad guy role.

    -Healing Together Member

  • My partner decided on his own to take a break from drinking for 6 weeks. Before his break he was drinking 7 days a week and sometimes all day on the weekends.

    -Healing Together Member

  • When I started implementing CRAFT at the end of September, my husband was drinking 3-4 days every week. It was the whole day, non stop, no breaks.

    We were constantly fighting and disconnected. We would both pick fights and say such hurtful things. I felt so incredibly alone. Our wedding was set for October. I didn’t experience the excitement normal brides felt because I was so terrified this would always be the way my life was. I was desperate because I knew he was so great and this THING was blocking our potential.

    October- January he started cutting back. I went full throttle with CRAFT. I removed the reward of fighting. I added in so many connection moments. Fast forward to February, my husband declared he was done. Since then, he has had slips that have all last less than 36 hours. Huge!!! He started therapy after months of saying he was going to.

    Huge!!!

    He has opened up to me in the most vulnerable ways, he is affectionate, kind, so thoughtful, planning date nights, taking care of me when I’m sick. I truly never thought this could be our reality even though I desperately wanted it. Last night, we had dinner with my family. My brother/his wife are big bourbon and wine drinkers. My husband told me about how hard he was fighting in that moment. When we got home he told me how proud he was of himself. I am so proud of him. It is hard to know for sure if he is “done for good” but he is fighting.

    He is trying. He wants to be done. He truly wants to be sober and is building his toolbox in those tough moments and seeing the reward.

    -Healing Together Member

More About Me

Mariah - The Founder of Healing Together

CRAFT-certified coach, and someone who’s been exactly where you are.

For years, I tried everything to fix my husband’s drinking. I begged, argued, cried, and felt like I was losing myself in the process. It wasn’t until I stopped trying to control his addiction — and started learning how to support real change — that everything shifted.

Now, he's sober. And I'm here to help other women feel the clarity, peace, and strength I once wished I had.

Healing Together is the community I needed when I felt most alone — and the one I’m so honored to offer you now.

Learn more about me here